Wednesday, 21 September 2016

45-65-85


I will say it and I will say it loudly. This is the rule for everybody. Agree with me or not, your neighbours, relatives and removal companies do.

If you are 45 and have everything you need, STOP ACCUMULATING STUFF.

If you are 65 you must start to CLEAR OUT YOUR STORAGE.

If you are 85 and have not yet done any of the above, you will be cursed on your funeral because you have left the tasks you could not handle yourself to people that may or may not have liked you in the beginning but when left to clear out your lives accumulated stuff, will NOT like you any more.
If you are 85 and holding on to your mothers discarded clothes since her death thirty years ago, you must must must ask for help. And most importantly, then allow people help you.

When dealing with your death we do not also want to deal with your unsolved problems and your junk. It does not add to your legacy of not having any problems. It only leaves us with the knowledge that the image we had about you as independent and on top of things was a false image. In reality you just stuffed you storage full of unresolved issues. In reality you could not handle most things.
In reality you were happy enough to add to the problems of others, just so that it would appear that you were perfect.

The simplified rule I now impose on everybody is:
One in One out at 45. Clear one box per month at 65. Stop paying for storage and put your car in your garage. Be sweet and kind at 85. At 98 you can do whatever you want if you have cleared your stuff.

Stop shopping at 45. Clear out storage at 65. Stay very very good friends with your family at 85.

8 comments:

  1. I am a minimalist , but any way thing will be here to clear after me.

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    1. I know you have been kind enough in your life that your relatives will not mind it at all.

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  2. This is absolute rubbish. The only stuff you need get rid of are things which you do not want, not need. If everyone adhered to this in the past, the museums would be empty. What the hell makes you think that if all your family had to do when you died was put you in a box, they would love you more?

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    1. Ah, I knew you wouldn't stay kind too long. Make a donation to a museum if you think it belongs there, make a will, label and sort and make decisions but don't make your relatives and neighbours or the social services do those decisions that you were too afraid to make yourself.

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    2. The fad or impulse for clearing clutter is as cyclical as the fad for collecting, and the desire to get rid of clutter has nothing to do with your relatives - it is purely personal, like the fad for Zen. My sister got over the 'problem' of clearing my parent's house by getting in a dealer, who made quite a bit of money from the clearance. There is currently a short-lived fashion for life clearance, fed - in the main - by someone's latest self-help book. They make much more money from it if they can persuade everyone to pretend they are de-cluttering for the sake of their relatives - who are often called 'inheritors' when the stuff is valuable. What is unkind about pointing this out?

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    3. Unkind possibly, unhelpful definitely. Although since prove my point exactly by recommending a solution that means somebody else will have to pay for what yourself are unable to deal with, I will let it slide.

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  3. I just turned 65. Better start giving away and donating quickly.

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    1. If it is in storage, you might not want it anyway.

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